Premarital Counseling

Premarital Counseling:

After the engagement and the wedding naturally comes marriage. Great effort is invested in planning and organizing the wedding in order to make it a success. The same level of planning and preparation should be invested into the marriage as well. Prior to getting married, premarital counseling can help you acquire the necessary skills and tools in order to avoid many common pitfalls experienced in marriage. In addition, premarital counseling can serve to deepen your relational bond and foster a greater appreciation for one another.

If this is your second marriage and you wondered what might have been done differently, premarital counselling may be an important consideration as well. Despite having experience in the role as a husband or wife and knowing many of the common pitfalls, choosing different behaviors and courses of action may still be challenging. Premarital counseling can provide both time and space to explore unresolved issues and permit you to start afresh.

 Our online premarital counseling will help you identify your specific expectations from marriage, finances, and other areas of your relationship before getting married.

Counseling can help prevent numerous potential issues that arise at later stages in your marriage by empowering you and your partner with better communication, conflict resolution, and problem-solving skills.

Couples in premarital counseling gain a deeper understanding of each other. They are better able to resolve conflicts that might inflect emotional wounds/injuries and break the fragile emotional bond that couple shares. Once a couple reaches that threshold of hurting each other with slow recovery, they start to distance themselves from each other. They no longerfeel emotionally safe, they cease to appreciate one another, and cease to seek one another for companionship, comfort, and physical intimacy. It proves to be the outset of the internal process of tearing down the very foundation of a healthy relationship.

In my ten years of experience as a couples therapist, the typical pattern most couples follow is to wait until the relationship is in severe crisis before seeking help.

An added advantage to undertaking premarital counseling is that couples are more likely to reach out for support when they face a rough time in their relationships before it becomes unmanageable which further sets them on the track for longevity.

Another common mistake most couples make is seeking premarital counseling even when it's evident there are profound issues plaguing the relationship, such as past infidelity, emotional and physical abandonment, poor communication, and other toxic behavioral traits.

The best course of action is to address these issues during premarital counseling which will not only strengthen your relationship post the healing process but will also provide you with tools and resources to build a stronger family foundation.